Author and owner of website http://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com, Danu Morrigan, sends you – the daughter of a narcissistic mother – one hundred letters of warmth, humour, validation, support and encouragement.
Danu says: “My absolute intention is that these letters will be your route-map, guide and even your friend as you travel on your journey to full healing from your toxic upbringing, and then to thriving in your life going forward.”
Understanding and healing for daughters of narcissistic mothers. (It’s for sons too*)
“You’re not broken and in need of fixing. You’re wounded and in need of healing”.
Do you find yourself emotionally bruised, upset and confused after being in contact with your mother? Do you end up doubting yourself – even feeling crazy – as she remembers incidents totally differently to how you remember them and denies other events even happened at all, until you begin to doubt your own perceptions?
Do you somehow feel you’re not a real person in her company? Does it seem that she gets angry or upset when good things happen to you, and gets happy and energised when bad things happen to you? But maybe that’s your imagination, you tell yourself, because of course your own mother isn’t going to be sad when you succeed and glad when you suffer, right? And so maybe you feel like a bad daughter for even doubting her.
Around and around go your feelings and emotions and half-formed thoughts, till you think you must truly be crazy.
If all this is true for you, you are far from alone. Millions of women all over the world have experienced the same crazy-making hall-of-mirrors. And this is why: their mother – like yours, possibly – has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Realising about NPD explains the whole crazy-making dynamic, and this realisation is so freeing and life-changing. It can be a tough realisation too, however, and this book aims to support you on the tough bits of that journey.
For the price of 10 minutes of therapy, this book explores how narcissists behave, how they treat their daughters, and that behaviour’s impact on those daughters’ lives. it also gives tools and resources to help you heal from the toxic and abusive relationship and to start living the life you always deserved to live.
*Sons of narcissistic mothers – you’ll still get huge value out of this book. I wrote it from the vantage point of being a daughter but many sons have written to me to tell them it told their story too.”
You are strong! No matter what anyone says, you can heal the symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD). In this unique guide, influential BPD advocate and blogger Debbie Corso offers an easy-to-use primer on dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), as well as powerful peer-to-peer support for managing your worst BPD symptoms.
If you have BPD, you may experience extreme emotional ups and downs. These intense feelings can make navigating everyday life that much more difficult, and as a result, you may have trouble maintaining relationships, seeing yourself clearly, or reaching career goals. You should know that you are not alone, and that BPD isn’t your fault. Most importantly, you need to know that you are strong. With the right tools, you can overcome the symptoms of your BPD- this book will show you how.
Written by a BPD survivor and advocate, Stronger Than BPD offers practical, evidence-based dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) skills to help you manage the intense emotions and negative self-image that can occur with BPD. This easy-to-use guide helps you apply the fundamental components of DBT-such as mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness-to everyday situations that can trigger your symptoms. And through personal examples and real-life stories, you’ll see how others have put these skills to work in their own lives to get relief. You’ll even learn how social media can help you heal!
BPD is a part of your life, but it doesn’t have to define you. If you are ready to take control of your symptoms using powerful, evidence-based DBT skills, this friendly guide will light the way.
Now in an expanded second edition: the first of its kind—clear advice for “undermothered” adults left feeling empty (and wondering why)
With this groundbreaking book, licensed psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of adults identify and heal a wound many didn’t know they had. Adults who were “undermothered” often go on to struggle with relationships—and their own self-worth. For some, their mothers may have been fine on the outside, but not present enough to provide adequate nurturing. For others, their mother may have crossed over to be hurtful or demeaning.
Full of compassion for children and mothers alike, this second edition of The Emotionally Absent Mother now addresses: Childhood emotional neglect, abuse, and their effectsPsychological disorders that may have affected one’s mother: Why is she shut down? What can’t she give her child?And how grown children can approach their mothers now.
Anxiety is a crafty shapeshifter that can take on many forms: the tiger that sinks its claws in with physical symptoms and distressing thoughts, the cruel and belittling bully creating insecurity and self-doubt and, worst of all, the frenemy rewarding avoidance of social situations with no physical symptoms, no cruel thoughts… and no life beyond your sofa!
This no-nonsense guide to beating social anxiety covers everything from surviving university and the workplace, through to social media and making it through parties and dates (whilst actually enjoying them!) With honest insights about her own social anxiety and a healthy dose of humour, award-winning blogger Claire Eastham describes what social anxiety is, why it happens, and how you can lessen its effects with lifestyle choices, talking therapies or even a hug from your favourite canine friend!
Feelings are something we have, not something we are.’
Revealing the complexity of emotions such as happiness, anger, fear, and jealousy, and how these are based on our perception of other people, Ilse Sand offers her professional wisdom on the psychology of feelings. Establishing that emotions are not always as appropriate as they first appear to be, the book encourages you to take a closer look at why you are feeling certain things, and how you can change how you feel. Especially written for highly sensitive people, guidance is included on how to identify the vulnerable feelings that often underlie our more volatile emotional states, and practical activities are suggested to help to embrace or reject sadness, delay impulsive actions, and allow yourself to be happy. Drawing on real-life examples throughout, the book offers you the means to improve your understanding of not only your own emotions and emotional actions, but those of others. The book will be immensely useful not only to people who feel things strongly, but to those who have trouble understanding or interpreting emotions and how to respond to the feelings they provoke.
The alarming symptoms of Pediatric Acute-onset Neuropsychiatric Syndrome – sudden tics, OCD, and regressions in both learning ability and behavior – can leave families stunned. Moreover, when educators and mental health professionals attempt to provide those families with desperately needed help, those providers may soon discover that tools useful for addressing those symptoms in the general population are ineffective for the youth who is battling PANS.
In this seminal work on PANS-related education, learning specialist, educator, and researcher Dr. Candelaria Greene PhD gives voice to the struggle that those extraordinary young people and families face. She offers a practical road map to assist those students through their unique academic challenges.
Sprinkled with humor and poignant tones, Dr. Candelaria Greene provides an in-depth historical overview of PANS, followed by a discussion of how this multifaceted condition thwarts students’ abilities both inside and outside of the classroom. She then reviews the processes and challenges of obtaining special education, accommodations, and other essential services, along with a detailed review of the ways in which laws in the United States support those essential interventions for students with PANS-related symptoms.
The calling card of PANS is one of jagged dysfunction in multiple areas – along with healing and recovered function over time. Those symptoms require that providers look beyond ‘a one-size-fits-all approach’ when treating the PANS-affected child or young adult. Accordingly, Dr. Candelaria Greene provides continuums of educational support that are unique to each student’s circumstances. Moreover, she provides ‘signposts’ to help the practitioner and parent identify those educational and special educational practices that will be most effective in the educational care of students with PANS.
Finally, the book provides practical tools for providers and families alike through appendices that include a PANS check list, glossary, references, web resources, descriptors of OCD and tic disorders, and sample letters to initiate educational services.
Jamie Candelaria Greene PhD has served students with special needs from all ages and developmental levels. Her work as a teacher and professor of Special Education has spanned over thirty years and three continents. Dr. Candelaria Greene’s research and writing has focused attention on effective educational practices, literacy, language acquisition, and especially, the effects of health conditions and the environment on learning ability. In addition to holding teaching credentials in Regular and Special Education (Preschool through Adult), she is a Board Certified Educational Therapist, as well as a Certificated Learning Specialist for the California Community College System.
In her private practice, Dr. Candelaria Greene has provided educational assessments, academic support for adults re-entering education and readiness skills for children at risk.
In addition to her clinical practice, Dr. Candelaria Greene recently completed a two year tenure as a Visiting Scholar Researcher at the University of California, Berkeley, where she investigated the effects of PANS on learning; an evolving and passionate inquiry ignited by her own child’s journey with the illness.